Life Rhythms: How The Pendulum Swings And How You Can Be In Control Of The Momentum.
In my life experiences I have come to a wondrous and life transforming piece of insight that I want to share with you!
There exists an ebb and flow of life, the way of the tide, the change of seasons and the slight predictability of life. I feel that a common challenge for many people including myself is the constant need to control and predict our tomorrows. In always wanting to know what tomorrow will bring, how it will bring it, when it will bring it and mostly what “it” will look like, puts us in a place of not being able to enjoy our today. The constant need to know the details of the future takes us away from the present. This results in being less present because our mindset is always on the future. It is a case of a dog chasing its tail! And if a dog only knew he would never catch it, much like you will never be able to fully predict the future, it might save you both some pain in the long run!
Yes It Is Ok To Dream.
While having goals for the future is critical, and gaining a sense of what you want for yourself in your future is a critical piece to become motivated to pursue tomorrow. Learning how to let go of the future and allow it to unfold in ways that you cannot predict is truly a magnificent way to start enjoying your present day.
I find the tactic of simply letting go of predictability a bit challenging. This is mostly the circumstance when I find myself in a situation that I did not predict, did not anticipate, and one that I am not interested in experiencing. I find myself in those moments constantly looking to the future, trying to predict when the situation I find myself in will end, and something I can predict will manifest. This causes me to begin to resist my current experience and incapacitates me from learning anything about the current experience. With a focus and mindset on the future, I in fact end up perpetuating the situation that I do not want to be in.
When you resist you persist. Whatever you are experiencing that you do not want to experience, by resisting the situation and saying ‘I do not want to experience you’, you are really pushing will all your might against a block wall, and it is just going to continue to push back. This only makes whatever you are experiencing that much more painful, because of your resistance to allowing it to simply happen and run its course. I use the analogy of paddling up stream, if you simply bring in your oars, and allow the river of life to take you to your destination, you will begin to flow with life. If you choose to continue to paddle up stream, you will be paddling for a loooonnnnnggg time!
Some life experiences are part of the journey and so learning how to flow with them can help you navigate the pain. Take a life experience for example such as puberty, yes we are taking it back quite a bit… This is something most people have to go through, it is a righteous pathway into adulthood. It may not be pleasant, and it must occur to transition a person into that next phase of their life. I am always a proponent of choices in life, and so in this particular example you have choices. You can choose to fight it/resist it, hate it, or you can choose to flow with it. Knowing that at some point in time, it will subside and a new chapter will begin.
There are always ups and downs in life. According to the classic Hermetic manual called The Kybalion, there are seven sacred Universal principles that govern our ability to manifest our experiences. One of the principles is the Law of Rhythm. The Law of Rhythm states that everything in life moves in a pendulum-like manner, with ups and downs that are always in equal proportions to each other like polar opposites. For example, in terms of emotional behaviours, at one end of the pendulum you can find apathy and at the polar opposite you can find peace. In your financial life experiences you may find poverty at one end, with a polar opposite of prosperity at the other end. In the mental and psychological experiences you have higher consciousness or the higher self and lower consciousness or the ego at the other end.
The pendulum always swings from one polar to another, much like the seasons always change, and after Fall you can expect Winter, sometimes you cannot predict the exact day that the snowfall will come, but you can surely expect it to come within a certain period of time. The rhythm of life is similar. You may experience good times, and you may experience poor times, and you will always have an opportunity to experience both. One will precede the other and continue in this way always and forever.
A Trick Of Sorts
The question then is if you are experiencing good, will you always then experience bad, and vice versa. The answer is a bit complex (of course, because you thought for a second there would be an easy solution ;). The answer depends upon your perspective on your life experiences. In my experience, as you begin to become more consciously aware of your life experiences, and you make the conscious effort of always (or at least in most cases) experiencing situations in a good light, you begin to lessen the effects of what may otherwise appear to be a bad situation. Meaning, if you change your perspective on your given situation you change the situation itself. By learning how to navigate the situation by focusing on the good that may be found in your situation, you will not become a victim of the circumstance you are in. In doing so, you in turn will shift your experience to something better almost instantly. And so, your experience does not seem as bad as you expected it to be, and by way of the pendulum, eventually it will swing to a more favorable circumstance.
Furthermore, to answer the question above, your good and bad experiences shift based on your perspective, and so what you might have expressed in the past as being a bad experience, is now an uncomfortable situation and not necessarily bad. This shift continues onward as you continue to shift your perspective. And a good experience can also shift in becoming fulfilling and wondrous and so forth. So you will always have a shift in experience, and it is dependent your ability to create the context for which it occurs.
The greatness comes not when things go always good for you. But the greatness comes when you’re really tested, when you take some knocks, some disappointments, when sadness comes. Because only if you’ve been in the deepest valley can you ever know how magnificent it is to be on the highest mountain.
– Richard Nixon
How This Helps You Navigate Life
As you find yourself experiencing not so favorable situations, you can be assured that as the pendulum swings, this event is only temporary. As with the change in tides, so will your current experience. It cannot be static, meaning you cannot be in the same place forever without change. Life is always changing and evolving, and so are you.
The idea here is to find a way to navigate your unpleasant circumstance until the pendulum swings the other way, when you then get to experience the opposite of your current experience.
Here are some strategies that I find helpful in shifting the momentum of your pendulum:
1. Harness the good.
A great way to navigate any life experience is to look for the good in any and every situation. This forces you to begin to appreciate what good there is, and to acquire the awareness that all situations do hold good to them, despite our efforts in experiencing situations as detriments. Look for the good and begin to harness that good. This will help you overcome the situation for what it appears like, and will also bring you into a state of gratitude. Your energy will automatically begin to shift to a better place, and you will begin to experience the sway of the pendulum at the highest and most fulfilling polar end.
2. Focus on what you are doing.
Being present is a difficult challenge for many people, I will also attest to my inability at times to enjoy the present moment. By choosing to focus on what you are currently doing in life you can begin to shift your experience to a better one, one that is more inline with the experience you want to achieve not the experience you are having.
The idea is to focus on what you are doing and the processes you are interacting with. If you find yourself searching for a job, focus on that activity and make it your commitment to become the best job seeker there is. If it is your experience to be going for interviews and interviews and interviews, despite landing an opportunity make it your job to become an expert at job interviews. If it is your current experience of being a father, focus on being the best father you can be, and enhance your communication skills, your relationship building, your multi tasking and all other skills that you know you will need in your professional realm.
Focus on whatever it is you are doing. Pay attention to what you are doing, because your efforts will be paid forward in some miraculous way that of course you cannot predict, but in knowing that there is a swinging of the pendulum, you will get to where you wan to be.
3. Envision the other side.
If you can identify the experience you are having, whether it be the emotions you are feeling or the experience itself, you can begin to shift your awareness and your thoughts to the polar opposite of what you are experiencing. Naming your experience and or emotion is critical here, because until you can name it, it will become challenging to find the polar opposite. Remember everything in life has a polar opposite, everything! Once you have identified your experience and or emotion, start to envision what it will feel like to experience the polar opposite. Take a moment in your day, every day to envision and feel the experience as though you were currently experiencing it. This is a powerful technique that will start to put you on a track towards happiness and shift you from experiencing your current circumstance as one that is less favorable to one that is shifting to something amazing.
4. Identify Life patterns.
Once you get the swing of things, no pun intended, you could start to identify life patterns. Through your observation of what you have experienced in life, while identifying how those events have shifted, and by noting to what experience they have shifted to, you can start to paint a picture of your life patterns. It might appear like a roller coaster ride of sorts, and that is perfect. Because you can never appreciate the ‘highs’ without the ‘lows’. Try to pay attention to your life patterns, this also helps you to anticipate the change, and know that the change will come. It also creates an experience of acceptance and surrendering to the experience, knowing it is all part of a pattern, a pattern that has a slight predictability to it. This helps you “get through” those times when things are not what you intended them to be, but they are what you are experiencing. Knowing things will change and having factual evidence in your documented experiences is what you may need to help you along.